Be more Fearless in Life & Blogging

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAWhen I first started blogging it was very different to what it is today, truth be told sometimes I barely even recognise it. To this day I have absolutely no idea how I stumbled across the balls to actually start one, having lived in constant fear of what others thought of me for as long as I had done. But that one exception aside, I spent a large part of my blogging life in fear. I didn’t attend events and I certainly didn’t immerse myself within the community, choosing to keep myself to myself than risk embarrassing myself in some way, shape or form.

I now look back on those years with much regret as I missed out on learning and growing as a person as well as meeting and building relationships with some fabulous people. What would I do differently now? What am I doing now to ensure I don’t let fear take hold? Here’s a few basics that I currently live by;


Comfort Zones

I used to “live” between the walls of my comfort zones. I would allow them to hold me back and suffocate me from the world. My fears always being at the forefront of my mind, my fear of flying, my fear of awkward silence, my fear of being judged all holding me back from so many incredible opportunities. And then I decided to say “Yes” more to things that were out of my comfort zone.

Flying half way across the world on my own? Yes

Living on a Boat for a week? Yes

Heading to events on my own? YES!

I soon realised that the more I said yes, the easier it became. The less scared I was to put my foot a little further outside of my comfort zone each time. This gave me confidence as a person and in my abilities as a blogger. I was there doing these things because I said yes!


Internal Voices

Your biggest enemy lives inside of you, that was something I realised pretty early on. It was only me who doubted me, I would convince myself that everyone around me did too when in actual fact they saw the opposite. We all have those voices within us who tell us we cannot and remind us that we might fail and if we fail that means we are a failure, people will laugh, therefore it is best not to try. \

I always maintain that the most common question I receive with regards to blogging is “what are your tips for starting?”, it crops up time and time again and I genuinely believe that 90% aren’t after tips at all. In fact they are looking for reassurance because they have been listening to that loud voice within them with all their “What if’s” and worst case scenarios. They want me to tell them that it will be OK, just like I wanted when I started.

In my experience, people laughed, I felt silly and I thought about what life would have been like if I had let the internal voices win. Now that same thought is the thing of nightmares!


People Will Judge You

We’ve all been judged our entire lives. Even when we thing we aren’t being judged, we most definitely are and there is absolutely nothing we can do about it, in fact we are probably just as guilty. It’s at that point that you have to take a step back and realise that worrying about being judged won’t ever stop it from happening, it is a fact of life and a waste of valuable energy that could be better spent elsewhere.

I now spend far more time worrying about those who judged me but also took the time to get to know me, to befriend me and to be there for me. There aren’t many of them but wow are they spectacular humans, so now a days I put that energy into maintaining those relationships, both inside and outside of blogging, to ensure I am always surrounded by the right kind of, like minded people.


You Don’t Want Everyone to Like you

As above I have some exceptional human-beings in my life who accept me for who I am and embrace the flaws I am so fearful of. However if you are being yourself, you are going to piss someone off at some point and in my personal opinion, because y’know it’s my personal blog and all, you simply don’t want everyone to like you. Opinions and beliefs differ from person to person so drastically that if you are airing a view, you can be damn sure someone won’t agree with you in fact I recently saw someone call me out for “writing too positively all the time”. It was reading that which made me realise, people with that mind set will simply see the negative even in the most positive and trying to keep them happy will cost you all of the wonderful things that make you who you are.

“I can’t tell you the key to success but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.”


Be Proud Of Yourself

The world is constantly telling us what we can and cannot do, who we should and shouldn’t be. We shouldn’t compliment ourselves because that is being arrogant, but we shouldn’t put ourselves down either because then that makes us insecure. We shouldn’t be too positive because that is setting unrealistic expectations and yet we shouldn’t be too negative because that makes you not pleasant to be around. We simply cannot win!

So a long with not attempting to please everyone, try pleasing yourself instead. Congratulate yourself on your achievements, publicly if need be. Compliment your own hair, your outfit or your make-up and own it. Be your own biggest fan because we live in a world that’s constantly telling us we are wrong!



  1. Ashley 28th March 2016 / 7:35 am

    Such a lovely post to read on a Monday afternoon! I’m an introvert myself and I’m by no means a professional blogger, just a little hobby I have on the side, but I am loving it. The blogging community is amazing, and in the future if I was ever invited to any events or anything, I know I would say no because of the fear I have inside of meeting new people! So thank you for these tips, great for future references. x

  2. Sanja 28th March 2016 / 8:56 am

    I totally agree with you, have the same feeling as you had, be shy constantly in some fear what community would say, but you are right, be fearless is the best weapon!

  3. Michelle Joseph 28th March 2016 / 9:24 am

    Great, positive post!

    Mich x

  4. Adele 28th March 2016 / 9:52 am

    Great post Lydia, really enjoyed reading it.
    I used to try & please everyone, but as I’ve got older I feel more comfortable occasionally saying No & doing more of what I want to do. Having a positive attitude & learning to celebrate success is so important.
    Hugs Adele xoxo

  5. Giada 28th March 2016 / 9:56 am

    I do truly love everything you said. I’m starting to being more confident with me and my blog.

    Glam Observer

  6. Lucia 28th March 2016 / 11:20 am

    I love your blog Lydia, you inspired me in so many ways the past few days while I was going through your posts and videos. All of what you’ve said in this post are so true. Sometimes I feel like, whatever we/am doing is wrong…and one day you just stop caring, because you truly cannot please everyone and they will think what they think anyways. I started to realise that just because I am self-confident and others are not, it doesn’t mean that I’m arrogant. I just know who I am and I believe in myself.

    All that said, I usually feel bad to post my link on blogs, but you know what? You encouraged me to do it! So here it is 😀 The link to my new blog, which I started a few days ago…it would mean the World to me, if some of you would check it out, and please tell me what you think honestly! I’m still learning and I spent so much time working on it that I cannot see what’s good and bad anymore 😀

  7. Camilla Bysted 28th March 2016 / 11:24 am

    I absolutely love everything that is written here Lydia. I’m new to the blogging world and have actually been blogging for over a year but was always way to scared to make it public or tell people about it for the sheer fact of being judged. Even now being new to actually making my profile public I was scared everyday when I posted something that I was being judged. N0w, thank god, I think F**k it if they are going to judge they are going to judge. I can’t live my life in fear. Since posting my blog online and publicly I have had so much positive feedback that I don’t care about those who may judge me. I love your attitude towards this!!!

    If you would like to check my blog out, i’ll leave it below.

    Thank you,

    Millie x

  8. Lauren Victoria 28th March 2016 / 11:50 am

    I really needed to read this today! So thank you for writing this. I’m glad I came across this post. I really need to start saying yes to more things and stepping out of my comfort zones. I’m letting anxiety win far too often now. It’s time for change. Great positive and motivating advice xx

    Lauren |

  9. Beth Norton 28th March 2016 / 12:04 pm

    Lydia this post has hit a raw nerve. It feels so relevant that right now, you could have been writing this from inside my head. In fact, I recently saw you at an event and was absolutely terrified to introduce myself, so instead I admired from afar. The next day, I skipped an event (again one you were invited to) because I let my anxiety take over and allowed myself to feel sick at the thought of entering a room full of beautiful and successful people that I didn’t know. Doesn’t that sound silly?

    I’m constantly missing out on opportunities because of fear and insecurity. It’s something I’m working on but it’s certainly not easy.

    Thank you so much for writing this post, and for voicing that you too have had these experiences.

    Beth x

  10. Marshalee 28th March 2016 / 1:23 pm

    Thank you so much for this aweasone post!
    The only reason why I made my blog public was I kept telling myself come out of my comfort zone. Don’t care what others say.

    Lately, I have slipped back into my confort zone thinking what people might say about me. I am happy you wrote this post!
    Thank you for the reminder. I am going to get back on track and be myself and stop thinking about what people say. Because I do not care anymore.

  11. Carmen 28th March 2016 / 5:19 pm

    There are a lot of wise words here. Saying “yes” more often is definitely the way to go. You’ll learn more about yourself & in turn, learn more about yourself as a blogger. Awesome thoughts! :]

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  12. Rebecca 28th March 2016 / 6:17 pm

    Such a positive post! Stepping out of our comfort zone is something we all need to do a little more regularly.

  13. Ciara Rose 28th March 2016 / 11:22 pm

    Such an uplifting and positive post.. thank you so much for sharing! Great tips and it’s definitely true that some people will love you and some people will very much dislike you.. and most of that will have nothing to do with you! Fab post xxx

    Ciara Rose |

  14. Katie Kuo 28th March 2016 / 11:57 pm

    This was a great read. Especially in terms of getting outside of our comfort zone, that makes each task easier over time when we repeat it. It’s so true isn’t it – we can’t please everyone, yet why would we want to? People will always judge, but the main thing is to stay true to who we are as a person. Thank you for the wonderful post Lydia! x

  15. Catherine 29th March 2016 / 11:06 am

    Lovely post! I’m definitely trying to step out of my comfort zone a bit more and say ‘Yes’ to more things – it can only benefit you in the long run! x

  16. Samantha 2nd April 2016 / 9:25 am

    Crikey! Someone called you out for being “too positive”?!?!?!?! What the hell do you say to that?

    I remember emailing you about 18 months ago saying how I was planning on getting back into blogging (thank you for your lovely, encouraging and mega quick reply by the way!), and whenever I read your blog I think “yep, I wanna do it. I’m gonna do it” but I’ never happy with the outcome; I tried at the start of the year but really struggled. It’s weird, it’s like I have all these ideas in my head of what I want to do but when it comes to actually doing it all that inspiration just flies out the window and I’m just sat there staring at my computer screen! So now I just read my favourite blogs amd magazines

    My point is Lydia, you’re my kind of girl and I think the vast majorit of your readers feel the same. Stay positive, it’s infectious!


  17. Madi 2nd April 2016 / 1:26 pm

    Such an inspiring post to someone just starting out – thank you!!

  18. Natalie 2nd April 2016 / 1:28 pm

    Loved it! I’m a newbie to the blogging world and you’ve voiced a lot of my thoughts so thank you for writing this post! Onwards and upwards! 😉

  19. Mother & Daughter 2nd April 2016 / 4:29 pm

    This was a great read and you are so right, our inner thoughts are what always hold us back. If you let them the what if’s will wear you down.

  20. Sonali 2nd April 2016 / 4:40 pm

    Amazing and inspiring tips. Loved them to the core 🙂

  21. ktkickass 2nd April 2016 / 8:33 pm

    Thanks for your enthusiasm and energy, awesome, wicked! Loved it! Always love to hear inspiration from others! Cool, music even! Awesome idea! I love the following quote, just wrote it into my agenda….”In the end, people will judge you anyway, so don’t live your life impressing others ~ live your life impressing yourself!” YEAH! “Go Hard”, as my son would say! The other awesome quote I love ….. “We travel not to escape life, but for life not to escape us!” Not sure who wrote them, but I love them! Thanks again! Have a wicked day!! 🙂

  22. Brenda Wyatt 3rd April 2016 / 5:37 am

    Thank you! I am 63 years old with a love of retail, I looked at your images because I also love Chanel and worked for the international division of European fragrances and cosmetics, with a world of retail experience behind me, I am a new blogger trying to find my way around technology and age! But hey, Chanel made her comeback after age 70 and great young bloggers like you, make me feel better about where I am and what I can contribute to the conversation! Many blessings to you!

  23. Jessie 3rd April 2016 / 9:12 am

    wonderful post!

  24. Anne Rita Taylor 3rd April 2016 / 3:50 pm

    I was fearless in my twenties, even traveled to Europe by myself, but as I got older I seemed to get in the frame of mind that I cared what people thought. Now I’m out there with my paper crafting, started a blog New Year’s Day 2016 and am fearless once again – or trying to be. Thanks for your post!

  25. Sarah 4th April 2016 / 1:42 pm

    Such a lovely post! I’m still struggling with worrying about what other people might think of me or how they perceive me. I’m slowly finding how rewarding it is to get yourself out there and step out of your comfort zone! Thank you for the last part, too. It’s easy to forget that we should be our biggest fans, and we should be proud of ourselves!

    Sarah |

    • ktkickass 4th April 2016 / 4:12 pm

      Hi Sarah! I just wanted to share this quote with you. I just found it the other day and I think it’s awesome….. “In the end, people will judge you anyway, so don’t live your life impressing others ~ live your life impressing yourself.” As they say, “Just Do You!” Have an awesome day!

  26. Anthronista 4th April 2016 / 3:13 pm

    In the words of Oscar Wilde, “Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken.” Lovely words, Lydia!

  27. Renee / Blog for Beauty 5th April 2016 / 11:03 am

    What an encouraging post, Lydia! Thank you for writing this. It’s something we can always be reminded of. I stumbled upon your blog because my friend shared this post, and I look forward to looking through your blog more!


  28. Rhian John 5th April 2016 / 9:27 pm

    This is a great post and fills me with confidence on starting my own blog.

    I am a fashion designer so blogging along side the industry is fun and helps my design work!

  29. Silvia Arossa 5th April 2016 / 10:45 pm

    Great Post!! I totally agree with you! Today blogging is not easy. The most important thing is to believe in your self! Thanks for sharing!

  30. Patricia 7th April 2016 / 12:35 am

    Great post and very inspiring! ????

  31. MaquiLab 10th April 2016 / 2:47 pm

    I am a bit (a big bit) socially awkward so I know what you mean 🙂

  32. Robyn 10th April 2016 / 7:19 pm

    I completely agree that you have to be confident and not care what people say I do sometimes think will people laugh but you have to be brave and bold and put yourself out of your comfort zone and youll go far

  33. Shirley 13th April 2016 / 1:08 pm

    Just what I needed to read to boost my insecurities. Oftentimes, I wonder what other people will say (perhaps instilled in me from a young age), however, who actually cares! It is your journey, and no one else has travelled your road, so who are they to comment and judge you. Thank you, Lydia, for the wise words. Is going to be my creative journaling outlet ????

  34. Erika 29th April 2016 / 7:08 am

    Really good post i totally agree with you 🙂

  35. Ana 9th May 2016 / 6:11 am

    You just gave me the courage to release my fist post :). Probably i will look back in a few year and think… Oh God!…love your positivity! Thank you!

  36. Ada 16th May 2016 / 2:58 pm

    The piece about people judging you has really hit home. I always feel like i act so much based on how other will perceive me – it’s a real downer! I wish I could care less.

    Ada |

  37. Anna Moroz 18th May 2016 / 9:28 pm

    Thank a lot for such an inspire post and great advices! I am so into to try be more fearless, hope that I can do it)

  38. Yoram Pohl 28th June 2016 / 12:43 pm

    The content that you publish is very inspirational Lydia, and very relevant t those looking to get started.
    Your personal stories are awesome! With your epl7 camera, do you use a tripod and remote or have you before, and can you still get shots like this that way?

    Thanks 🙂

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