Body Confidence – It’s not a competition Ladies!

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA SBgreece7 OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA SBgreece6Due to recent dramas within the fitness supplement industry (I really won’t give the subject any more exposure than it already has) something suddenly dawned on me. A beautiful, slender model stood before my eyes; perfectly healthy and perfectly happy. Yet the endless comments calling her anorexic, to go and eat a burger or simply just “Too skinny, gross” were actually astounding.

Followers of my Instagram will know I’m no stranger to comments like the above myself and whilst I’ve always adopted the attitude of “Expect but don’t accept” it is unfortunately still rife. Sometimes I think it happens to all body shapes, no matter how big or small. And then I try to think of a marketing campaign that ever celebrated a size 6 model for being small and beautiful. If I’m wrong feel free to put me in my place right now, if not I’ll continue.

Whilst I absolutely love the celebration of plus size women I can’t help feel that anything under size 10 has now become a dirty word. When did it become a competition? When did it become OK to shame someones body in order to feel better about your own? And when did being a under a size 10 become “disgusting”?

Rather than simply celebrating a size for being a size what we really need to do is educate each other and women everywhere on what Body confidence, healthy bodies and also just general manners are. As someone who has suffered with confidence issues I thought a few from my own experiences might be a good place to start.


You can’t live a positive life with a negative mind

This is almost my mantra for life. How are you supposed to surround yourself with positivity if your mind is constantly thinking negatively. Turn those poisonous thoughts of “I can’t” that infiltrate your mind at its most crucial points to “I’ll try”. And no I’m not talking just about weightloss because thats not everyones struggle.

Whether it’s a new job you want to go for, a career change, a lifestyle or a fitness goal of sorts, thinking its a possibility is the first step to making it a reality.


Be You.

The most detrimental thing a person can do to their confidence, is try to be someone that they are not. Everyone of us is beautifully unique, but in a world full of influential and inspirational people, it’s easy to lose sight of who we are whilst feeling inspired by someone else. The most important thing to consider in this, is that people aren’t foolish and they can usually tell when something isn’t kosher and it’s pretty hard to keep up too. A good idea is to build on the factors of who you are that you feel are your strengths, are you a born leader? Do you enjoy looking after people? Are you fiercely aspirational? Honing those qualities and factors of your personality are a great way to define yourself in a world thats constantly trying change you.


Natural Beauty

Whilst I believe the ability to bare your natural beauty is something that comes with age, you’re never too young to take care of the natural beauty you were born with. Because I hate to break it to you, you are so much more beautiful under there than you realise so try to go make-up free once and a while to get used to the idea and also to be able to start seeing just how beautiful you naturally are. Make up is wonderful and it’s no news to you all that I wear it too but over the last few years I’ve worn it less and less, even going as far as blogging bare faced or even just with a touch of bronzer and a nourishing lip balm as I did in the shots above. There was a time where I’d sleep in my make up for fear of people seeing how hideous I thought I was. It wasn’t until I started teaching myself to love myself naturally, that I started to enjoy wearing less and less. You do not need a full face of make up to be beautiful, I’m just telling in case no body ever told you, you will realise when you’re ready!



That’s one thing to come out of 2014 that I absolutely adore, seeing #Goals under peoples pictures never fails to make me smile because quite frankly having Goals is good for you. But you don’t want to set your sights too high too early so be realistic with what you want to achieve and take baby steps towards them.

Also don’t be afraid to give yourself a BIG PUBLIC pat on the back when you do achieve them, it’s funny when people think I post pictures of my fitness achievements “for attention” Hell I’m just letting you all know how awesome I feel at the time for setting a goal and achieving it, because I need BIG PUBLIC pats on the back too you know?


Look after yourself & your environment

I can’t say this one works for everyone but looking after my body and surrounding myself with a clean & tidy home does wonders for how I feel about myself and my life as a whole. There’s nothing like feeling as if you have your sh*t together to make you really feel positively about life. I like to think of it as the matching underwear of life, because when you’re underwear matches you’re life really is on track.


All images shot on the Olympus Pen E-PL7 & the 45mm Lens by Carly Rowena


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  1. Scallywag 14th May 2015 / 8:01 am

    Great post and mindset. I completely agree that it is just as unacceptable to make nasty comments about someone being what you perceive as underweight as it is to make nasty comments about someone being what you perceive as overweight. Unless you are their doctor or a health professional they have hired; you have no right, nor any knowledge, to comment on how healthy they are.

  2. Lucy 14th May 2015 / 8:01 am

    Hi Lydia, thank you for posting this!! I, myself am a petite girl and all of my life I have been constantly ridiculed by others for being so. I have been told time and time again that I am too tiny and that I should eat more. I was around people eating cake once and someone said to me, “you should be eating more of this” and laughed. What? That is such a shitty thing to say, I eat loads! I am 5’0 and I’m a slender frame size 6, I cannot understand how else I am supposed to look? Any more weight and I would look chubby. The people who tell me these things are unhappy with their own appearance, but when did it become ok for somebody to slam a thin person for being too thin when they are clearly fine? I would NEVER tell an overweight person to put down those crisps their eating because they are fat. That is horrid and I would be ridiculed for it. Why aren’t more petite women celebrated? Why are women constantly pulling each other down? When did it become my problem that they aren’t happy with the way they are, therefore they shame me for looking the way I do? Ugh!! It makes me so mad!
    Anyway, enough rambling from me, I just wanted to say that I appreciate your post and your views so much, you seem like such a lovely person. Keep up the awesome work 🙂 xxx

  3. Jessie 14th May 2015 / 8:51 am

    I totally agree with this post! Lately, I’ve dropped down from a size 10-12 to a size 8 all through swapping fast food for healthy options and working out five times a week, and people always make comments about how “obsessed” I am with the gym or how I always choose the healthy options when out for food. I do it because I LOVE working out and eating well and I feel so good now; I am much more confident. It’s just annoying that people can’t be happy with you just the way you are! xx

    Jessie | allthingsbeautiful-x

  4. Claire 14th May 2015 / 9:27 am

    Couldn’t agree with this post more! We should celebrate everyone not just one body type.

  5. Tashi Skervin 14th May 2015 / 9:49 am

    Hey hun, I think this may be your best blog post yet…and you have done some amazing ones! Give yourself a big public pat on the back! You constantly promote positivity and encourage people to empower others and this post does exactly that!

    I also Love the styling of this shoot, you look great and that colour looks so good on you x

  6. Lauren 14th May 2015 / 9:52 am

    Hi Lydia,

    I follow you Instagram so have seen some of the horrible comments left. I agree that a confident, healthy and happy woman is what needs to be endorsed – regardless of their shape or size.

    Changing my habits and lifestyle isn’t easy but the way I feel afterwards is 100% worth it.

    Reading your post this morning has motivated even more to keep at it – not for anyone else, but for myself. Thank you x

  7. Lauren 14th May 2015 / 11:21 am

    Hi Lydia, i have been following your blog and instagram now for some time, i love it!! you are such an inspirational person! Since reading your blog i am trying my very best to improve my fitness and for once its for myself and no one else. I really believe having a positive outlook really helps!! i would love to see a food dairy for a day!! Thank you 🙂 xxx

  8. Martha jane 14th May 2015 / 11:29 am

    While I didn’t think the advertisement was harmless at all (nothing to do with the model, more to do with the expectation it put on women to be something they weren’t), you’ve got it bang on with this post. We seem incapable of celebrating one body type without shaming another and it needs to stop. Really enjoyed reading this post! Aiming to be as confident with myself as you are, it’s so refreshing to see! X

  9. Emma robins 14th May 2015 / 11:35 am

    Love this post!!!! Just what I, and probably many others, needed right now. You shoud be so proud of what you have accomplished Lydia, you truely are my inspiration. Much love x

  10. Emily 14th May 2015 / 1:25 pm

    This post made me tear up a little bit. Its easy to get yourself down when other people around you are negative, reading this has made me feel so upbeat and positive! Thanks Lydia! x

    PS. You should wear just bronzer and lip balm everyday – your skin is so incredible, don’t hide it behind make up!

  11. Emily Thompson 14th May 2015 / 4:42 pm

    I love to have my underwear match my life, haha! This was a really inspirational post. I definitely suffer from low self-confidence, but I will totally keep these tips in mind the next time I’m feeling down about myself. Thank you so much!

  12. Alice @ Honestly Fitness 14th May 2015 / 7:30 pm

    Great message, Lydia, and couldn’t agree more. Our society has such a critical mindset and it is really sad to see many innocent women get hurt in the mix. Thank you for reminding us about the power of positivity!
    Also, when do you think you will post about your recent low-carb experiment? I am so excited for it!

    Alice x

  13. Cori 14th May 2015 / 9:39 pm

    Couldn’t agree more, Lydia! I don’t believe it’s right to shame any size body — I think women, and people in general, should be more educated on general health and a balanced life. As long as you are healthy, nourished, and happy, the body you have should be viewed and accepted as OK. We all have different frames, proportions, etc. It all comes down to genetics, health, and the amount of dedication that we put into our fitness. If we have healthy insides, what comes natural on the outside should never be shamed!

  14. Christine 14th May 2015 / 11:47 pm

    I’ve been on both sides of the coin. I’ve been very thin (naturally) and now I’m overweight. You just can’t please anyone ever! I wish we could change the dialog of society. I am not sure we can. I actually think it is worse now than it was when I was younger. The only thing I can do is keep trying for myself and make sure I am positive for others.

  15. Leah 15th May 2015 / 8:31 am

    I very rarely comment on blog posts but I think this one is absolutely spot on with some great points. You’re a great role model Lydia and only bronzer and lip balm in those shots?! Just as gorge too! Keep up the great work!x

  16. Annabel 17th May 2015 / 12:14 am

    Such a good post, and so on point. This is defiantly being bookmarked for when I have a off day!

    Annabel ?
    Mascara & Maltesers

  17. Carlyrowena 18th May 2015 / 9:06 am

    So proud of you for this post and to anyone reading this, Lydia is the most beautiful person to shoot, she has incredible style and an amazingly healthy attitude to food and her body, she is someone who wants to inspire and does it beautifully.

  18. Tamara 2nd June 2015 / 5:02 am

    Love this! Putting down one size is body shaming no matter how you look at it. You look beautiful in these shots!

  19. SCARLET 26th July 2016 / 6:06 pm

    “You can’t live a positive life with a negative mind” this one is the base of all. You need a positive mind to do things properly and in order to reach your goals with a smile.

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