Boost your body Confidence

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We live within a generation of women who are constantly comparing themselves to others. The women in the magazines, on TV or the new 20 year old in the buying department with legs too long for her own good. We’ve all done it. It’s about time we stopped this confidence destroying practice and put the energy to better use. I’ve come up with some tips to help you move in the direction of a more confident you.
1. Don’t like something? CHANGE IT.
Now I’m not suggesting you run to your nearest plastic surgeon and book a full body tuck. Surgery should always be the last resort. But if you don’t like your legs, there’s a work out for that. Not too keen on your stomach, there’s a work out for that too!  Trust me a gym membership is a whole lot cheaper than surgery and far more rewarding too.
But that said, I have never felt it necessary to discuss my own  surgery on my blog or social media although I’m sure no-one missed it. 
In March 2013 I had breast augmentation and I waited until I was 25 to do so. I had reached the point where I felt I had given them ample time to make an appearance and they had let me down. I tried every contraceptive pill and even at my heaviest my tummy protruded more than they ever did but it really was a last resort and whether you like to admit it or not, cosmetic surgery is changing peoples lives every day and is PROVEN to improve self confidence. 
After the bandages were removed I had a shower, got dressed, did my make up, looked in the mirror and cried (what a waste of time all that slap was) it was the first time I had actually seen my body as a Woman. Thus signifying my love affair with my body, that really was the point where everything changed and I started treating my body with respect.
2. Step out side of your comfort zone.
And this applies to every part of your life. There’s nothing more rewarding than reaching a goal you never imagined possible. If you feel you deserve a promotion at work – go for it! Think you can’t run 10km – work for it! The only person stopping you is you. Nobody wants to be the girl that grew up and never tried.
I am far to familiar with the word “can’t”. No seriously ask my personal trainer, I’m sure there hasn’t been a single session where I haven’t said “I can’t do that!”, Just last week he told me to do a set of hanging leg raises but I had to get my feet to touch the bar. He was mental in my eyes, it was only last month that I struggled with doing a single normal leg raise. But I tried and to my astonishment I managed 3 in a row, I felt like such a bad ass and swagged it out hard as I left the gym!
But I push myself to step out of the zone in more area’s than just my gym. I wouldn’t have my job, my boyfriend or my blog if I hadn’t decided to step out. So make it top of your to do list to STEP OUT MORE!
3. Take compliments.
We’re all guilty of brushing them off, playing them down or “counter-complimenting” as I like to call it. “You’re hair looks good today Lydia!”
“Ohh no it’s a mess look at my roots, I want your hair!”.
It’s not easy to be able to accept compliments but once you tackle it you will see just how much of an effect it has on your confidence. Even if its a toot from the car next to you on the motor way or the builders working on the house next door wolf whistling you as you get in your care. Take it the way it is intended and enjoy your day.
4. Dress yourself confident.
I’m probably a feminists worst nightmare but there’s a certain magic found only within the perfect pair of killer heels, a breath taking LBD or a lacey set of expensive smalls. So treat yourself once and a while and embrace the air of confidence today’s fashion hands to us on a daily basis.
5. Talk about it!
There are few out there who can claim to lived without insecurity which means we have all battled through and dealt with our issues utilising different lines of attack. Friends and family are not only able to offer an understanding ear but also tips and tricks to tackling body confidences woes head on. 
I receive endless compliments about my hair which I cannot deny, is wonderful but what people don’t realise is if you’ve got a head of hair like mine (which is enough for six people) you’re almost certain to have the same everywhere else. I’ll just let that mental thought linger for a little longer…delightful. But I suffered in silence with it for so long, painfully embarrassed and moved heaven an earth to ensure nobody knew. It wasn’t until a group of amazing girls I worked with in Ibiza shared their own fluffy woes that I realised I wasn’t alone, the anxiety vanished almost immediately and I still use some of their methods to this day.
I feel that just by writing this post I have taken a huge step outside of my own comfort zone, but I really hope it wasn’t done in vein and if you have any thoughts or questions don’t hesitate to leave a comment below.


  1. Hannah 3rd March 2014 / 11:52 am

    Brilliant post, thanks for opening up and sharing with us 🙂 Taking compliments is always difficult but I’ve been working on this over the last year or so. I think you just need to find a response you’re comfortable with (that doesn’t sound self-deprecating or big-headed) and keep that as your stock answer until it comes more naturally. xxx

    • lydia millen 3rd March 2014 / 12:08 pm

      Oh wow that is such great advice Hannah!

  2. Abbi 3rd March 2014 / 2:11 pm

    Great advice in this post, I’ve found that I’ve got better with age at being body confident, however being relatively flat chested (32A) this is something I am still battling with. It was helpful to read such honest and positive thoughts on plastic surgery as this is definitely a consideration for me in the future – would love to know more about your experience one day.

    You look amazing by the way, your blog is wonderful 🙂 xx

  3. Sarah Harris 3rd March 2014 / 2:15 pm

    Lydia you motivate me so much and your ever so funny! love this post x

    • lydia millen 3rd March 2014 / 2:22 pm

      Ahh it’s so great to know that someone other than myself thinks I’m funny. This is great news 😉

  4. Selina 3rd March 2014 / 5:47 pm

    Thank-you for this post!

  5. Alina Anghel 3rd March 2014 / 7:25 pm

    some great tips! One of my favourites is to stop comparing myself to others and just accept the way I am (hence I`m eating a huge ice cream right now even though I should have been at the gym) 🙂

    The Provocative Couture

  6. Victoria Huggett 3rd March 2014 / 7:41 pm

    YAY for motivation. i’m in the same situation with breast augmentation but i’m not having it until after i have lost all the weight, but I and i’m sure a hundred other ladies know exactly how you feel! Well done girlie!
    Victoria x

  7. Little Peanut B 4th March 2014 / 10:18 am

    I thought this was a great post! You exude such confidence and bad-assery, it really gives me hope to know that you have your moments as well! Great advice, thank you
    Lauren x

  8. Danni-lea Sandland 5th March 2014 / 10:31 am

    After reading bits of your blog and looking at your pictures through instagram. I’ve decided your my inspiration to get fit. I’m only 18 not overweight just so unfit (7st / 4ft 11) I’m at my highest weight though! So just wanted to say thank you 🙂 you’ve kicked ny was into gear and got my mind fully set on this whole exercising business! Wish me luck! X

  9. Laura M 24th May 2014 / 8:53 pm


    You are NOT every feminist’s worst nightmare! 🙂 Feminism is all about women feeling more confident about themselves and achieving more! It’s all about individuality- if wearing a Little Black Dress with killer heels or getting surgery makes you more confident & happy it’s all that matters! But then for some it might not, and that’s okay too 🙂


    A Feminist


  10. Me 16th June 2014 / 10:21 pm

    I agree with Laura M – feminism is definitely not about not shaving, dressing like a man, burning bras etc. It’s nothing more than believing that every woman should have the right to express herself the way she wants and have equal rights. There are many feminine feminists!

    Also a feminist

    • lydia 17th June 2014 / 9:07 am

      Definitely wasn’t suggesting that feminism is about those things, I’m sorry if that’s how it appeared. What I meant was the decision to change ones body can sometimes be perceived as a decision based on the pressures of society, which really wasn’t the case in my own surgery. However due to the stigmas attached to breast augmentation people forget that.

      • Me 20th June 2014 / 11:04 pm

        Thank you for your reply, I’m sorry I misinterpreted what you said. It’s really great that the surgery helped you this much. Hope you’re having a lovely day!

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  12. irma 15th March 2015 / 5:10 am

    Thank you thank you so much for posting about your breast augmentation. I saw pictures of you and it makes me feel very self conscious when I see fit woman with great breasts. It makes me feel even worse because I use to be a 36c and when I started working out hard 5/6 x a week they went down to a 34b. There’s an awful feeling seeing something that makes you look like a woman and it just goes away. I slowly stopped going to gym and I do this every time I lose weight and breast get small. But you being honest just gave me the confidence to get back in gym get the body I know I can get and deserve and later on I will go and get that breast augmentation I deserve. Again thank you so much

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