FALLING OUT OF LOVE WITH BLOGGING

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I’m struggling.

Blogging is all I have ever known within this industry. It’s where it all began and yet I’m sure it doesn’t go unnoticed that content has become a lot less regular around here for the last few months. It’s not because I’m not working hard enough, contrary to popular belief my content has never been about quantity, putting out any old posts or scraping the bottom of the barrel for whatever content I can muster up. I have always been painfully critical of my content, I never think it is good enough but I continue to work at it and try to get better with every step. I’m not a gifted writer or photographer but what I do have is vision and I feel immense frustration when I am unable to make my vision materialise. And frustration is exactly what I have been feeling for the last few months.

 

“I’m restless, bored and utterly uninspired therefore something has to change.”

 

Frustration at my content, at my abilities, at my progress, frustration at the injustices which continually occur within the blogging space, but more so, I just feel an overwhelming sense of feeling utterly uninspired by blogging as a whole,Β that I haven’t been able to ignore it.

 

So I took a step back, took off the rose tinted sunglasses I was wearing, critiqued the shit out of everything I was doing. I noted down what I didn’t like anymore, I didn’t listen to my own hype, I looked at the flaws and laid them bare in front of myself so that I couldn’t bury my head in the sand any longer.

 

There needed to be some changes, some differentiation and more importantly some evolution.

 

So right now, that is what I’m doing.

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DSC05970I am currently sat on my office floor.

My legs are crossed, there are notes, clippings, articles, drawings, ideas, both good and down right awful and there are parts of me, all strewn over the carpet as I type this.

 

So I guess what I’m trying to say is, there might be some changes around here over the next few days, weeks, months. I’m not totally sure what they will be just yet, but this certainly isn’t about “re-branding” or “re-launching” more than anything, its just about finding myself again.

 

I want to fall back in love with doing this, I want to regain spontaneity, creativity and most importantly my identity. I’m restless, bored and utterly uninspired therefore something has to change.

 

“its just about finding myself again.”

 

So I hope that you are going to enjoy the next stepΒ in this 5 year long journey so far, I mean as D:Ream once said “Things can only get better!” so I’m excited to embark on the unknown.

 

 

 

 

If there is anything at all you have ever wanted to see here, no matter how small or big they might be, no matter how silly you think they might seem. I want to know, even if you write me a long winded e-mail or a little comment below, your feedback is everything.

 

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92 Comments

  1. La Bijoux Bella | by mia 31st October 2016 / 7:34 am

    We all will at one time or another go through a phase of uninspired in what we do, not just in the blogging world. Because we always are our highest critiques of ourselves and always looking for more and better things or opportunities to improve and better at what we do . . . And that’s a good thing, always a good thing. Something to smile about because you are about to embark and be the subject in this greatest quote. I always admire this parfait quote from Albert Einstein:

    “The woman who follows the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd. The woman who walks alone is likely to find herself in places no one has ever been before.”
    ? Albert Einstein

    La Bijoux Bella | by mia

    • Dianne 7th November 2016 / 10:30 pm

      Lydia I have been following your bloging for a few months I have never been interested before but I suffered a nervous breakdown with anxiety and it left me with agrophobia which as left me unable to go out for four years I started to look at people’s blogs when I came across you I have realy enjoyed what you have had to say and loved when you talked about your family and your cat please continue as you seem such a genuine person who says things as they are and being at home I have enjoyed your clothes and the trips that you go on I hope you feel better soon so that I can start to enjoy your many adventures with you lots of kind thoughts to you Dianne x

  2. Lisa Winckelmans 31st October 2016 / 7:35 am

    Hi Lydia,

    I would love to know what your capsule wardrobe would be. Just the bare minimum makeup, clothes, bags, -accessories… I think this would give a great insight too your style and essentials.

    XOXO Lisa
    http://www.lisawinckelmans.com

  3. Lisa Winckelmans 31st October 2016 / 7:35 am

    Hi Lydia,

    I would love to know what your capsule wardrobe would be. Just the bare minimum makeup, clothes, bags, -accessories… I think this would give a great insight too your style and essentials.

    XOXO Lisa

  4. Elena 31st October 2016 / 7:53 am

    I love your content, sometimes it’s a blog post and other times is a YouTube video to die for. The things that makes both stand out is your personality, your soul behind them. That’s what makes every work unique. I think I understand your feelings: sometimes when you work for years in the same thing you have to evolve the way you manage that work at the exact same path and rhythm your personality and life is developing. I’ve been working as a doctor for 9 years now and although I love my job and my vocation is strong, there were times I felt I had to do changes in the way I face every patient, changes that have to do with an evolution in my world, my feelings, my soul and my vision.
    So I encourage you to do everything you feel you have to do, to be brave and consequent.
    I trust you and be right here to enjoy every change.

  5. Adriana 31st October 2016 / 8:23 am

    Your content is bomb! On youtube and here! I just wish you post more outfit photos here πŸ˜›
    You look gorgeous!
    xx

    The Black Blush

  6. Elaine 31st October 2016 / 9:02 am

    Agree with above! More outfit posts! Would love to see interior ideas! Take a look at Damsel in Dior! She’s the only other blogger I love besides you! Blog about the books you read, would love an update on your roaccutane progress! Talk a little bit more about fashion week inspiration. Include pictures. American bloggers always have pics of current outfit cravings! Your shopping vlogs are brilliant. Add a few pics from the day on your blog to get us curious ! More travel pics on blog !!! Hope these ideas help. Don’t doubt yourself your doing brilliant. We all just need a moment before we come back stronger!!!! X

  7. Hayley Larue 31st October 2016 / 9:05 am

    Love how honest you are in this post. I hope you become inspired again, and I’m glad to hear that you are giving yourself the time needed to be able to do that! Regardless, I LOVE your blog, your photos, style, etc. I’m looking forward to the changes you come up with! <3

    BlondieInTheCity.com

  8. Rosie von Waldherr 31st October 2016 / 9:16 am

    Take your time, find yourself, it’s normal to get in a rut and we all understand it – especially those of us who also blog. You’re a beautiful person, inside and out and you’ll find what is best for you, just have faith and don’t give up!

    xoRosie // Rosie’s Life

  9. Elena 31st October 2016 / 9:26 am

    Lovely Lydia, what about fall in love again??? I don’t want to be impolite or indiscreet but its just a thought i have, as love always gives inspiration, power and self confidence in all aspects…..
    Every proffesional faces competition and hits below the belt but this means that you exist and you’re in the game and you’re a serious “player”!!!!
    You did a success in such a short time, this is not based in luck. You’re talented, beautiful and clever and i’m sure you will find your “thing” again!!!
    A good idea would be to travel more often… by the way….why you stopped doing your flicks??? ok, not everyday but at least on your nights out…. xxx admire u

  10. Liv 31st October 2016 / 9:47 am

    Oh babe – this post really resonated with me as it, in a way, reminds me of one I wrote recently and is really an extension of that. I spoke about my blogging schedule and why I don’t have one for those same reasons – not wanting to force out content I’m uninspired by, simply for the sake of it, so I completely understand.

    I think we all need to take more time to spend on ourselves and give ourselves what we’re lacking. There’s nothing worse than something you have so much passion and vision for, ending up turning into a chore because you’re forcing it. You’re doing completely the right thing and everyone will appreciate your honesty.

    Can’t wait to see what lies in store for when you find your way again πŸ™‚ > http://www.livinfashion.co.uk/2016/10/imitation-vs-inspiration-and-blogging-schedules.html?m=1)

  11. Sofia 31st October 2016 / 10:46 am

    I love these trousers so muchhh

  12. Sophie 31st October 2016 / 10:48 am

    Dear Lydia,
    First of all I want you to know that I really love your content, pictures, videos and most of all you. You were one of the reasons why I started blogging and as I read this post I felt deeply respectful for you because you said this out loud. You are not one of these people’s who create content without feeling themselves. That shows us as a reader that you are honest and open and this is more valuable than any content! I wish you all the best for the future and you can be sure that I am going to stay here as a reader! Lots of love! XX

  13. Ashley 31st October 2016 / 11:07 am

    Every single one of us who’s in the blogging world, has every once in a while fall out of love from blogging. I get the rare “uninspired” moments when I blog and I get so down and hate myself for not coming up with something creative or different, but hey, that’s totally fine! Because someday, you’ll reach the end of the rainbow and find inspiration back in your life again. And I hope you do too, Lydia. πŸ™‚

    http://www.ashrealasitgets.blogspot.com

  14. Catiana Rettenberger 31st October 2016 / 11:54 am

    Hello Lydia,

    I’ve started following you recently and was quite sad that there wasn’t a lot of new blog content coming.
    But I get were you are coming from and thanks for being that honest!
    I’d rather have you not post instead of writing and uploading things you don’t like.

    Btw: I reeeeeeaally looooooove your photography. Could you tell me what you focus on whilst you are on your shoots?

    Love, Catiana

  15. Harriet 31st October 2016 / 12:12 pm

    Love your blog and will love it when you’ve ‘found yourself’ again
    A refresh is always good for you!!

    lots of love
    Harriet
    harrietloves.co.uk

  16. Jayd Alice 31st October 2016 / 12:43 pm

    Good on you for being so honest! I’m feeling similar at the minute and we’re always our own worst critics so it’s an awful thing to go through especially when it’s your full time job. I look forward to seeing what you come up with next though lovely and I’m sure it will be great x

    Always, Alice

  17. Audrey MARIANNE 31st October 2016 / 12:49 pm

    I’ve been waiting soooo long for a new post and couldn’t be more happier to see new photos and read your post.
    You’re one of my favorite blogger ever, and I LOVE what you do. I love your chit-chat text in your posts, I love your photos.
    I can only hope you’ll fall back in love with blogging because you’re so good at it and even if you’re as good in YT I feel like there is something in looking at still PICTURES that can’t be found in a YT video.
    What I love the more are outfits posts, because you’re so inspiring, and also your tips for blogging (photography tips and stuff like that would be awesome).
    Thanks for letting us be a part of this journey Lydia ?
    – Love from France

    Audrey M.
    http://www.audreymarianne.com

  18. Adele 31st October 2016 / 1:01 pm

    You look gorgeously snuggly in that coat Lydia! I’m not surprised to read this post from you – your rapid growth & popularity on YouTube must seem so much more exciting than your blog, but don’t give up on your blog as you are one of the best bloggers out there. Your style, writing & photography is superb! Most successful Youtubers still write a blog to compliment their video channel, so that would be my advice to you…as long as you post regularly even if it’s just once or twice a week you won’t lose your audience.
    Hugs Adele xoxo

  19. Mara 31st October 2016 / 1:10 pm

    Hi Lydia!

    Here are some ideas that popped into my head when I read your post. Hope they help! : )

    The Life Changing Magic of Tidying up by Marie Kondo

    -this book is amazing. I know you are an organized person! But what really helped me recently was making a point to really de-clutter and go through EVERYTHING (every file on my computer, every picture, everything). This creates space for so much breathing room and creativity. You will feel more inspiration : )

    More posts on books you read (loved the YouTube video of you reading and relaxing)

    Have more fun/be spontaneous and try things you’ve never done (rock climbing, going new places)

    Vlogs (loved the one of you and Ali where you stopped to get Red Bull’s and he was waving in the back lol : ) maybe random things from your vlogs you can put up on here if people missed it on YouTube. i really like “in the moment” times of your life like Snapchat and vlogs because they are so real and it makes me feel like we are friends just chatting. And I love seeing the cute, silly Lydia with the deer filter. People want to see YOU. You are a happy, positive person and your light shines and really helps people (more than you know). People want to see other people being happy. You have a great smile and I think you should show it in your blog posts more often! ; )

    Volunteering/giving back (this has nothing to do with blogging but it will help lift your spirits and invite inspiration!)

    I think you are amazing and super creative and I know you will find what works for you! Focus on having fun and everything will work out! : )

    Mara

  20. Michelle Joseph 31st October 2016 / 1:15 pm

    I have been following you ever since I discovered you. You are amazing and so is your content. Despite you not blogging as much, I watch your videos and they make up for the lack of content. Dont worry, take as much time as you need.
    We’ll still (well I will) be right here πŸ™‚

    Mich x

  21. Rio 31st October 2016 / 1:31 pm

    Follow your heart. You are incredibly talented and no matter where your exploratory journey will take you I (and I’m sure many others) will be thrilled to follow. One topic I would love your opinion on is….can/should older women try their hand at blogging/youtube? Is there a place in this space for women in their 30s? 40s? 50s?…or this is a young girl’s game? I would appreciate your candid opinion given everything you’ve seen over your years doing this.

    Thanks so much.

    X’s & O’s

    Rio

  22. Becci 31st October 2016 / 2:32 pm

    Ever since I met you at the clothes show last year I have been completely and utterly inspired by you and everything you do. You absolutely nail everything you do in my eyes. You are always ahead of the game in every single way and you work so unbelievably hard.

  23. Aleyson 31st October 2016 / 3:05 pm

    Hi Lydia!!

    I only started following your blog a few months ago after discovering you on Youtube, but I can honestly say you are my favorite blogger! Your photography is always on point, your styling amazing, and your writing wonderful! You are so very personable, which makes you stand out among a sea of bloggers! You are also an incredible YouTuber!

    I know the feeling of being stuck in a rut, but know that you have so much support no matter which direction you decide to go! If you’re into introducing new things to your blog, a post all about Lumi (he is ADORABLE!) would be so much fun!

    Love you!!

  24. Amanda Florian 31st October 2016 / 3:14 pm

    I really appreciate reading realness like this. Everyone has periods where they feel bored or uninspired and it’s annoying and unrealistic to see someone appear always happy and perfect. Thank you for making such a relatable and approachable post. πŸ™‚ You’ll figure it out, meditate on it πŸ™‚

  25. Asya 31st October 2016 / 3:34 pm

    Personally, I am in Christmas mood (yeah, I know it is not even November yet). So I would enjoy Christmas gifts post/video or something similar.
    Also, I love your blogs. They are real, interesting and give me some ideas and motivation how to spend my time.
    You are amazing and we <3 u

  26. SHERI BERKE 31st October 2016 / 3:38 pm

    You rick! Reevaluating where we are is both hard and important. Thanks for sharing your thought process and taking us on the journey. It gives us courage to make our own changes. Besides, looking good really starts on the inside…and happy people have a certain glow. You’ll be great no matter what!

  27. Shellie Skillen 31st October 2016 / 3:53 pm

    I can completely relate to everything your feeling in this post! However you really shouldn’t worry, your content is amazing and it’s what keeps so many people coming back for more!
    I would love to see more tips posts from you especially since you have been blogging for so long, I loved the video you did of how you started out.
    Perhaps you could include some more blogging tips here, how you plan content and also photography tips, as your images are to die for!!
    I hope you find your love again for blogging and I’m sure that whatever you decide to do it will be amazing! xx

  28. Aya 31st October 2016 / 4:29 pm

    I just discovered your blog and after reading this post i immediately followed you. I appreciate the fact that you actually care about your blog and wanna make your vision come true, your determination and passion to give the best content is amazing. Take a break and come back strong, and i can’t wait to see what’s next πŸ™‚ Good luck.
    Aya

  29. Becki Rose Fraser 31st October 2016 / 4:32 pm

    I’d love to see a ‘how I style video’ and perhaps take one statement piece and style it, say three different ways?

    Also, I love all of your clothes, I really do, but I can’t afford them, so I’m always looking for dupes for some of the items you wear. That might be nice too! I also love your vlogs! They are my favourite. Good luck in everything you do! Your fans love the content you out out there!

    Becki xx

  30. Simone 31st October 2016 / 5:40 pm

    Hi Lydia,

    I love your content – espscially the amazing photographs you put together. Your style is so polished and refined, I’m envious! I think good for you, you’re not 100% happy so you’re reflecting on the situation and doing something about it. It shows you’re self aware and are keen to continue moving forward instead of being content with what is/has been for the last few years. I’m excited for you and the ideas you have waiting!

    Ps – you inspired me earlier this year, to get the courage to begin my own blog. Very basic at the moment but I’ll get there!

    Simone

  31. miranda 31st October 2016 / 6:27 pm

    Hi Lydia,
    I’m such a fan of all your content, especially everything fashion related. It’s also fun to see your vlogs on youtube. I would love to see some more lifestyle stuff worked in, like fitness and health content.

  32. miranda 31st October 2016 / 6:28 pm

    Hi Lydia,
    I’m such a fan of all your content, especially everything fashion related. If you’re looking for input, I would love to see some more lifestyle stuff worked in, like fitness and health content.
    xx Miranda

  33. Rebecca Bock 31st October 2016 / 6:57 pm

    Hi Lydia,
    I have not long been following you long I would say the past couple of months or so and I am seriously hooked. Your warm friendly personality really is so charming. I love your blogs and vlogs you are so easy to connect with. Literally I have spent a small fortune since I stared following you as I just love your style and only today have had to purchase the gorgeous blush jumper from John Lewis ????. Hope it looks half as decent on me as you but something tells me that won’t be the case.
    I can only imagine it must be difficult to come up with content each week but I love what you write and your photography is fab, having sometime out is a good plan especially if you are not inspired at present, I love your honesty on the subject and I am sure you will figure it out in the direction you want to go.
    I personally would love to see more about your home interior and would love some inspiration on how to dress for occasions i.e. weddings, christenings etc. What would you plan to wear for an occasion during the winter months?
    Keep doing what your doing your great at what you do.

    Ps I neeeeeed these Zara trousers they are amazing!!!!

    Rebecca xx

  34. Georgia 31st October 2016 / 7:05 pm

    I stumbled across your blog/youtube channel a month or so ago through twitter and I have become obsessed! I love every post and every video you upload and 100% look forward to a new one being posted! So keep going, your content is great and what I love is that I can relate to every post even if I cannot afford to buy everything I see! Keep going, xox

  35. Sophie 31st October 2016 / 7:34 pm

    Hi Lydia,
    I have been following you for a couple of years now since I saw you on the instagram explore page. I loved your style then and I love how it has evolved.
    It has definitely inspired me to dress the way I want and let people see my personality more. This was really important for me as a teacher as I used to worry that people would judge me for spending time doing my hair and makeup and dressing up when I could be working, and maybe they do but I no longer care and am happy just being myself! I want to show my kids that it’s OK to be yourself and work hard and feel great whist doing that.
    I love your content as it is, but I really enjoy your vlogs so more of those please!
    Sophie xx

  36. Olivia Dack 31st October 2016 / 11:54 pm

    I am 21 years old, stuck in my final year at uni; utterly bored and UTTERLY uninspired. Yet, for whatever reason I stumbled upon your youtube and was immediately inspired. You have achieved all that I could ever even want in my own life. You are humble and genuine because you have experienced enough life to know that to be successful, one must be honest, brave, and kind. Your blog is an evolution of sorts… It demonstrates the journey of an independent woman accomplishing her dreams, and if I am not mistaken, that journey has yet to end. The other day I reached out to you on snap chat because I just wanted to thank you for helping me climb out a sad little hole in my uni bedroom, for reminding me that I can find happiness in small places if I am patient enough to look, and for reminding me that my life should be neither half full nor half empty, but that I should want it to be filled to the brim so that tiny amounts spill over and remind others who too forgot how to smile. The fact that I am able to sit here and quote you is truly incredible; you have this platform and this voice that can be so influential, especially to girls like me. In my experience, losing inspiration stems from something related to boredom as you probably know, but I think it also stems from losing sight of what you’re in it for, or the true purpose. I don’t know how many other young girls sit in their uni bedrooms, or somewhere in their parent’s home longing for what you have achieved, aching for a little bit of hope that there is certainty and stability beyond life as we know it. Through reading your posts, I have learned that there is hope and that there is life and happiness, and that uncertainty is ok and necessary for success. Through you have I come to understand that achieving happiness is as simple as you make it and that I should work harder on myself and not that paper due in two weeks. No longer do I dread the uncertainty that exists beyond graduation. You have altered my perspective to one that is so profound, I just feel the obligation to send you a box of chocolates or something real to thank you. Truly, you reminded me how to live. My point is, think about who you’re doing this all for and consider the impact it has. Perhaps blogging could transcend into a book, or something because to me, you are more than a beauty and fashion guru. Sure, I trust your opinion of products over any other guru- but I look at you as more than that. If you read this far I will be amazed, and I hope it helped. Even if it didn’t I hope I may have added but a teaspoon of inspiration back into the pitcher. Best of luck re-finding Lydia, I think she is close by. With love, Olivia <3

  37. Paulynagore 1st November 2016 / 12:31 am

    I feel the same those days, i wanna change something on my blog, i mean, it’s always the same content, blogging isn’t my job, but my passion, i love doing this, but i’m not sure to have found myself yet.
    Ok let’s talk about the outfit : Did you know that thanks/because of you, i’m dying for this faux fur? I’m so in love!
    Your outfit is spendid!
    http://paulynagore.blogspot.fr/

  38. Erin Henry 1st November 2016 / 1:38 am

    Lydia! You are so beautiful! Truth be told I wasn’t even sure why I followed you. I am not into fashion what so ever! however through this post I just realised that while you take amazing professional pictures and have a large following, you are still 100% real and maybe that’s why I adore you, polar opposite interests aside.
    People forget that behind a blog there is a just a real person sitting there. Life continuing. No one stays in the same place through their lives, they grow and they every so naturally, so will their blog.
    I am sure you find whatever it is that is going to complete you once again and I am so excited to see it!
    Sending you lots of Aussie love.
    Erin – erinmayhenry.com

  39. Irene Kwon 1st November 2016 / 3:05 am

    Your outfit inspirations are everything! We have a similar sense of style and I look to your YouTube and Blogs for inspiration. Please continue down the outfits route!

  40. Abi Durrant 1st November 2016 / 6:37 am

    Hi Lydia,
    This post resonated with me so much as it is kind of what I was going through a few weeks ago, and probably haven’t quite overcome just yet.I don’t think it gets any easier, especially when you are so self critical all the time, however it is something which I have been trying to work on! But I absolutely love everything you post, and your personality is amazing. Hope you find your mojo soon!
    Love Abi xxx
    abidurrantpt.com

  41. mediamarmalade 1st November 2016 / 9:10 am

    Loved the words. LOVE the coat.

    I know how you feel, i feel the same constantly, but don’t forget how much success you’ve achieved. Self progression is always good, but don’t be too hard on yourself. You’ve step changed the game for your blog and you should be proud. I’m still peddling away on that one haha πŸ™‚

    Mel x

    http://mediamarmalade.com

  42. Lauren 1st November 2016 / 12:04 pm

    Lydia,
    You’re one of the very few bloggers I read/watch because of you as a person, not because of what you write about/the pics you take/the skincare you use etc, (but that is a bonus). So many blogs I barely look at anymore because they’re just so boring. There’s only so many times they can say why body cream changes their life (!).
    Having just left my career after eight years to be a full time blogger I felt completely lost and confused last week and am dealing with stress like never before. Stress and anxiety is taking over my life both mentally and physically on my body. However, I watched your shopping/Harrods video yesterday (admittedly while procrastinating) and I felt completely enamoured by the fact that you’re so dedicated to looking after yourself. Not in a big-headed way, I mean the way you structure your day, your exercise routine and how great you are with nutrition. That side of it is one of the things I love about you – and your blog. The positivity, the wellbeing, the fitness. You’re like my free little life coach! I don’t mean this to sound like an ego boost but you’re gorgeous, healthy and a boss. I’m sure I’m not alone in saying how inspiring I think you are and what a fantastic role model you are to society in general.
    Keep doing what you’re doing!
    Lauren, Sassyinthecity.com xx

  43. Nicky King 1st November 2016 / 1:57 pm

    I love this post, and it’s actually the first I’ve ever read by you. I think it’s really important to be objective about yourself (in any aspect) but it’s also important to keep a balance between critiquing and being kind to yourself. Also note the things you love and want to keep doing, and focus on the good things as well as trying to improve the rest. I’ve followed you as I’m really interested to see the path you take, and I think you have a pretty cool style too!

    Nicky Zeeb xx

  44. Julianna 1st November 2016 / 3:06 pm

    Oh Lydia, how funny you wrote all this.

    About two months ago my life, again, got absolutely messed up, I was supposed to start my new job (I am a solicitor) and then move to Milton Keynes by July, to work there. And one day I found out I had to leave England (I am from Ukraine) because new law firm cannot support my visa, so I have to wait (put life on hold, so easy) until July. Anyways, why the heck I am telling you that…

    Ah, right. And I had this web-site for a year now, skinny-cook, and I would write things about diets and healthy food, without mentioning myself much and putting some randome pics, and it was so frustrating, like, why do I not have thousands of views?how does it work? But I never wanted to be a ‘blogger’, I honestly thought it’s something so stupid like bored girls do that and it’s not an actual job etc. I guess I just never saw a good one. And then a month ago I found you! I heard on your vlog you are from MK and I just started watching, cause I miss it badly and it’s nice to see shopping centre or my fav Willen Park. I watched it all, read archive. And You’ve changed it all for me, opened my eyes and became my inspiration. Nothing around was interesting since I was pushed to move and here was you. Things you said I was like ‘That’s me talking!’, ‘That’s my favourite candle/bag/bedsheets’. I realised what the real bloggin is. So not to go nuts here, I decided to put effort and see what I can do from all this. I looked at my website ‘sober’, I was so frustrated. You made me feel that it’s actually fine to talk about everything I like, and not just dedicate website purely to fitness. So writing this many letters, all I want to say, that even though you feel frustrated now just know that I felt, and still feel the same, but YOU changed it for me and inspired me and every day now I think how to improve/what to shoot/ how to design new normal website. I mean, I am like 4 years behind you, but just know that you are doing amazing work and you inspire people and at least one person far away did not go mental because she found your blog πŸ™‚ And the way you feel only means that you grow, and yes, changes are only for the better.Hope in my case too πŸ™‚

    As for suggestions, may be you just need a nice holiday, to explore and get inspiration πŸ˜‰ France with nice wine and food, Bali, Dubai..or even All-included holiday in Egypt to eat,sleep,sunbathe,repeat. (my plan lol)
    Also, hopefully, you will be moving to your new house soon so you can record all the works/decoration part for ‘home’ section. I love that one.

  45. Marlene 1st November 2016 / 7:28 pm

    I Couldn’t agree more with Lauren! This is spot on how I see you and how I feel about you, just be you, and blog about WHATEVER you feel like, in that particular moment. I find myself re-watching the video’s I love the most over and over again, and that is always your vlog’s, where you are, being you!

    If you really feel like something comepletely new, why not start a business with things you love, design something, whatever, I’m sure your followers will buy it, I’m sure I will!

    Lot’s of love and positivity.

    Marlene
    marma.dk – if I find the courage to FINALLY start my blog!

  46. Stephanie Velez 1st November 2016 / 7:40 pm

    Yeah! I understand you; I am also in a constant struggle these last few weeks to organize and post some of my ideas. Unfortunately it seems that my brain to desconcectado and I can not capture or terminate any of them. In short if you find or test some ideas to rediscover yourself or remove the lock inspirational please share it! I’m that pluck my eyebrows so much thinking.

  47. Kylie Tarpening 1st November 2016 / 10:07 pm

    Lydia,
    I’m not from the UK, but a week ago I feel upon your youtube channel and dove in; now I’m looking at your blog, which is extremely beautiful and motivational. I work for Anthropologie which in my opinion is driven by finding inspiration and developing yourself as a woman. I too have found myself lost at times and lacking inspiration; whether its with my style, career or sense of self. I’ll stop blabbing and just say that finding your youtube channel and blog as given me inspiration while I was in a funk. It got me inspired to define my style a little more, as well as finding another woman who can be beautiful and kind. (which sometimes can be more a curse with woman than a blessing, haha) My advice would be too find someone, or something that inspires you. Some days for me its a quote. Sometimes its a photo. Sometimes its a walk. Whatever it is that your truly struggling with, just remember if your not changing your not evolving, so I can not wait to see what gets you back on your feet for inspiration!
    xo
    Kylie

  48. Janine Markham 1st November 2016 / 11:30 pm

    I think why I first started following you was more of your athletic looks and more of your fitness bits. As someone heavily into fitness, I do miss more of those posts vs just the snapchats you’ve been doing. Although, I still have followed you over to youtube, Instagram, twitter, and snapchat, your blog will always be where I turn to first for all about you.

  49. Oxana 1st November 2016 / 11:52 pm

    wow Lydia… your utter sincerity that’s what kept me following you for all those years and the depths of it still amaze me. And you ARE a talented photographer and you ARE a gifted writer and of course it only will get better.
    Will be looking forward to whatever comes next! Whatever you do, we (your faithful followers) will stick around.

    With love,
    Oxana.

  50. Emma 2nd November 2016 / 1:32 am

    Lydia you’re one of the only bloggers whose content I eagerly await every week! I more than anything love watching your youtube videos just simply because your personality is always radiant and never fails to cheer me up. I’m not sure if you’ve ever considered doing posts targeted towards things that are inspiring you like maybe books your reading, fashion shows you love, or exhibits you’re interested in seeing. I think we all feel this way at some point and its so refreshing to see someone like yourself who inspires me so much expressing that you have these internal challenges as well.

    xo from NYC
    Emma

  51. Lucy 2nd November 2016 / 8:10 am

    Hi Lydia, I’ve been checking every day for a new blog post from you so was very happy so spot this one. I think it’s one of the best you’ve written. I’m old school and prefer reading your blogs to YouTube videos but I do enjoy those as well. When I started following your blog it was broader in the topics it covered. Insights into your fitness regime (or struggles with it), interior decor, product reviews, insights into your relationship with Ali, and fashion. But more recently your content here and on YouTube seems to focus solely on fashion. While what you put out about this is great, mixing it up across the topics kept things interesting. So I’d like to see more of that plus:

    Reviews on books you’re reading, new food you’re trying, stories of Lumie, how to have a balanced life, your travel goals -where do you want to go and why? People in business who inspire you and why? photography – you’re amazing at this so just your hints and tips on focusing, how to frame photos, backgrounds that work well etc, set yourself a challenge to do or learn something new and take us along that journey with a series of posts, beauty treatments you do in a week, how you avoid temptation, your plans for the new house and how you’re going to get there.

    I hope that’s helpful and I look forward to seeing more blog posts xxxxx

  52. Rebekah 2nd November 2016 / 7:26 pm

    Hi Lydia
    I am trying to start up a blog, i have a lot of ideas but not a single clue about where to begin! Your blog is absolutely my favourite, the way it is styled, the content etc. Just wondered if you have any tips on where to start with web page design or editing software for pictures? Any advice would be really appreciated! Please keep up with the blogging and YouTube videos; definitely one of the most stylish bloggers out there!
    x

    • Jessica 8th November 2016 / 7:40 pm

      Rebekah,

      This is Jessica, a Lydia’s follower. I just came across your comment and wanted to let you know that I was at the same stage you are. I wanted to start a blog and had no clue where to start and came across Marina De Giovanni. I took her course Pro Fashion blogger and that course is worth every penny. I’m launching my blog “Gal On Duty” in January 2017 (still work in progress). I highly recommend the course! Here you have the link: https://marinadegiovanni.com/

      Wish you lots of success!!

      xx
      Jessica.

  53. Mira Aksoy 2nd November 2016 / 9:59 pm

    The thing I really love with you and your blog is that you always keep it real but covered in fluff. In a great way. I aspire to be more calm, just like you, and I love your style and attitude towards life. That is why I am following you. It will get better, you just need to find out more about who you really are.

    Lots of love,
    Mira

    http://www.miraaksoy.com

  54. Denise 3rd November 2016 / 2:34 pm

    I really appreciate your blog as it is, but I can understarnd that after such a long time you feel the need to change things a bit. For example, it would be interesting if you could give some advice on blogging – how to come up with ideas, how to increase the number of followers, how to get to work with brands or just how to promote your blog.

  55. Carmel 3rd November 2016 / 6:56 pm

    Hi Lydia I just started following recently and I love everything you do but my favourite stuff is fashion blogs, and the come shopping/get my hair done etc with me vlogs. I also love makeup tips and tutorials. I have gone off a lot of bloggers who have become so about the adverts (I know that it goes with the territory but I think there’s a positive way to do it) – I hate to watch vlogs of some bloggers where I feel like it’s just their business and not what it started out as – lifestyle sharing, reaching out etc. You are the first blogger I have ever contacted and I have been following many for years. I love your style, I love how you don’t take yourself so seriously – it’s more real than the ones that appear perfect etc. Also love your Snapchat but I feel sometimes that if I haven’t got a chance to go on snapchat that I have missed out on something – so if there’s a way to catch up in a blog or blog on stuff that ended up there that would be great too. I love best and worst videos too – it’s so helpful to have someone who knows what’s a good purchase or what’s not – especially the flaws! Keep going. I hate my job and rely on people like you to take me away from that feeling so remember how important what you do is!! (No pressure!)

  56. lisa 3rd November 2016 / 8:22 pm

    I like the fact that your YouTube channel and your blog showcase different content. It shows different sides of you and therefore, I am a huge fan. I fell upon watching your 5 expensive shoes vlog and immediately set upon watching all your other videos. I wait for Wednesdays and Sundays! <3

  57. Isabella 4th November 2016 / 2:06 am

    Lydia, if you ever doubt your ability – please be reassured that you inspired so many of us to get writing.
    Before I came across your blog, I doubted whether anyone would be interested in my content and the myriad of views, passions and experiences I have to share.
    You inspired me, along with others, to believe in the value of my voice in a busy sea of bloggers.

    Sending love to you – the woman who empowered so many of us xx

  58. Isabella Leyva 4th November 2016 / 5:55 am

    Lydia Im so sad to hear this, I just hope that you are able to find yourself even if that means leaving blogging aside, put yourself first! It is worth it! πŸ™‚
    xx Isabella
    http://www.angulo28blog.com/slip-dress-love/

  59. Katie Phillips 4th November 2016 / 11:29 pm

    I love all the changes you’ve made to your blog recently. You’ve definitely upped the game of blogging and to me you stand out from the rest you definitely lead the pack!

    http://www.katiemariephillips.com

  60. Tina 5th November 2016 / 12:36 am

    My first comment here πŸ™‚ I would love to see “a day in the life of” post. Even if it’s just a post of a blogger taking the train into the city, shopping with a friend, followed by a gym session in the evening. I get inspired seeing something as simple as a morning to evening post. Especially one that entails healthy-ISH and uplifting lifestyle.

  61. Tina 5th November 2016 / 12:41 am

    Oh yes, Christmas inspired posts. That’s a good one. Saw that in a comment above. And more work-out posts. πŸ™‚ Healthy eating posts. Even as simple as your fruit-salad you make.

  62. Hannah 5th November 2016 / 7:27 am

    You’ve got loads of comments now but I wanted to say that I love the consistency of your work, I love that all of the font the design work flows and is used in a consistent manner so keep that up for sure.
    I love the make up updates and the end of the month purchases.
    I think a 5 things to do to get Christmassy one would be cool so get this candle, do this activity etc.

  63. Suits and Books 5th November 2016 / 5:44 pm

    We totally get you Lydia! We have falled in and out of love with blogging and sometimes it just takes time to take the step back and reevaluate why you started it all. Don’t feel discouraged. And check out our latest website update – we might inspire you hehe πŸ™‚
    Suits and Books

  64. Hayley 6th November 2016 / 3:59 pm

    LOVE this post lady! I think that everyone seems to be feeling it lately, I too need to take some time out and fall in love with blogging again! You keep doing you boo, because you’re smashing it!

    Hayley xo
    http://www.frockmeimfamous.com

  65. Stacy 6th November 2016 / 5:40 pm

    You can’t even understand how helpful and useful this post was for me!!!

  66. Deni 6th November 2016 / 6:13 pm

    It gets tough sometime to come up with different content.

  67. Lucia 7th November 2016 / 1:46 pm

    I think it’s really strong of you to admit all this…especially being such a successful blogger. I hope you will find what you are looking for, and that you will be happy with yourself again.
    I fell into something similar lately and all I could’ve taught was that I want to write about what I love, and what is on my mind…not another outfit post, or a fall trend one. So that’s what I did
    and I wrote about my Puppy, who I have in my life since the beginning of this year. After all, it’s my blog so I chose the content.

    All in all, same with you! You’re blog, do whatever feels right and don’t be pressured, because then you get uninspired again.

    Love, Lucia

    Ps: If you wanna see my puppy post: http://www.bblucia.com/home/2016/10/13/having-a-dog

  68. Ellen 7th November 2016 / 7:31 pm

    It makes me so sad your not enjoying it anymore, it must have taken a lot to write this post and make it so public. I love your YOUTUBE channel so please keep doing that x

    http://www.justlittleellen.blogspot.co.uk

  69. Marshalee 7th November 2016 / 8:07 pm

    You are awesome please continue to blog!! You inspire me so much. I would love to see more fitness post! Keep your photos the same they are amazing.
    When I don’t feel like posting a blog post I look for you for inspiration. Love ya!

  70. Terri 8th November 2016 / 8:05 pm

    Possibly it’s because interaction from blogs now are at a minimum. I can see this post has gathered a lot of responses but i feel instagram and snapchat are taking over a little.. And youtube as well i suppose, something you’re extremely good at.

    I hope you start to enjoy writing in your blog again soon, it’s where you started and hopefully it continues!

    Much love,
    HER FASTEST FASHION

  71. Diane 9th November 2016 / 8:38 pm

    I think it’s normal for everyone to have moments of doubts and mostly for those of us who are perfectionists ! It’s never good enough and we are always in the search of something more, something new, some changes… I hope you will find your new you, and I can’t wait to see what’s next !
    All the best,

    (Sorry if there are mistakes, I’m French but yet, trying ! Aha)

    Diane,
    The Classy Time
    http://theclassytime.fr/

  72. Jessica Harris 10th November 2016 / 11:32 am

    I love how honest this is. I’ve felt like this myself recently so I relaunched my blog twentysixstyle.com and have found a new excitement for blogging. I have no idea where it’s going but hope that my readers will let me know like yours have. It’s trial and error a lot of the time but you’ll find your way…

  73. Lauren 10th November 2016 / 3:06 pm

    I completely feel the same way at times. I struggle to curate content when I work full time, especially during winter when photograph opportunities after work are minimal. You’re killing it on YT and I can definitely see your passion there.

    Lauren – http://www.bylaurenjane.co.uk

  74. Gemma 10th November 2016 / 5:29 pm

    Your blog is amazing Lydia! You’re a beautiful person both inside and out and I think as long as you let that shine through your readers will keep coming back for more. I think you should blog about your interests and try not to restrict yourself too much. But personally, I’d love to see outfit, travel and interiors posts. I hope you feel more inspired and fall back in love with blogging soon, your right though, a change is sometimes needed.

    Gemma x
    The Gem Agenda – A UK Lifestyle Blog

  75. Amy 11th November 2016 / 4:48 am

    Hi Lydia,
    I really love your work, especially on YouTube as you showcase a sophisticated and very English side to fashion and beauty – this is unique and your strongest asset. I wouldn’t feel so bad about not feeling inspirational about blogging and I think it’s a broader trend – YouTube is taking precedence with everyone these days, and you’ve got what it takes to make it big. Please continue your friendly, informative and seriously fashionable videos. They really are outclassing many on YouTube. What I’d love to see more of is regular updates, say weekly or monthly, of your fashion and beauty faves; interviews with your peers and those in the fashion, PR, beauty worlds etc; and shopping guides around London and any other fashionable cities.
    Thanks for all your work, your my favourite Youtuber and I only discovered you a few months ago.
    Amy

  76. Dasha Savchenko 16th November 2016 / 12:31 am

    Lydia,
    I think it’s okay to step away from blogging and instead focus more on YouTube. I really enjoying your vlogs because I get to see an authentic part of you that I otherwise wouldn’t through reading your posts. I really enjoy your personality, I like your eye for fashion and overall aesthetic as well. I find that your vlogs capture that perfectly without coming off as too “bloggerish”. In reality, I think a lot of your followers are just looking for different than the usual marble counter tops and green succulents – which you have successfully been able to distinguish yourself from. If you can just continue being yourself and channeling out any anxiety you might have about reaching perfection you’ll be in a really good place.
    Best,
    Dasha

  77. Laila 19th November 2016 / 7:51 pm

    I think all bloggers reach this point once in a while. It doesn’t mean we are not passionate about what we are doing, it is more about that we strive to the best we can that we tend to overthink or stress over content. It reminds me of a Studio Ghibli movie called Kiki’s Delivery Service that is based around feelings like this. It is better sometimes to take a step back and re-evaluate and return. It is part of life and the best part is you will come back better than ever ^_^

    Laila from Townhouse Palette

  78. Caroline 23rd November 2016 / 8:18 pm

    Hi lydia ive followed your blog and youtube for ages and now ali’s to, you inspire me and i always get my boyfriend to watch ali’s videos to try and give him a bit of style haha have you ever considered doing a video/blog with ali like how to help style your man or maybe he could pick you an outfit from your wardrobe and you from his? Would be interesting to see what he picks for you. I think most of us at the beginning of a relationship dress to impress our partner so what would be their favorite outfit they adore you in? Love you lots
    @thirtynineforever.com

  79. Soph Taylor 2nd December 2016 / 8:48 am

    Hey Lydia, I have been following you on social media and ‘stalking’ you blog for months now and I find your content amazing and intriguing. I absolutely love what you post on your blog, you give me inspiration for my blog posts as well as motivate me to plan and create content for my blog (chaoticpassion.wordpress.com). I would love to know what your skin care routine is, including all products you use, in order and why they work for you. skin care is something I am so passionate about and absolutely love discovering new products to try. I understand that after blogging for such a long time you would have moments where you lose yourself and become unhappy with some of the content you are putting out there. I just want you to know, I think your content is amazing, the photography is amazing and you yourself are amazing and such an inspiration to me! keep doing what your doing and most importantly keep being you <3

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