Spending Pays

Leather2 Leather1 Leather4 Leather6 Leather3 Leather7 Leather5With the latest Twitter scandal of the blogging community still simmering under the surface, I feel this post has been doing the same. Blogging has changed so much in a very short space of time that people everywhere are quitting their jobs to follow their dreams, and rightly so. I remember the day I handed in my notice, I replay it often and smile at how blissfully unaware I was.

Now everything is exciting, creative, inspirational and new. We are able to collaborate and build relations with brands that we have loved and been inspired by for years, we are able to create, beautiful and unique content along side some of the most creative minds in the industry, We. Set. Trends! But so many forget where it all started, gifts aren’t big enough, free enough or extravagant enough to satisfy some and we find ourself spiralling into greed.

I love so many of the products I have been lucky enough to have received over the years, so much so that I spent 2 years telling you about them for free, during the only free hours I had away from work. Obviously now that may have changed slightly and I am able to work along side brands to bring you the best content possible along side my most genuine review but still if I buy something that I love, you can be sure you will find me shouting about it somewhere (usually snapchat). If there’s something that I want, I buy it, it’s as simple as that. I don’t e-mail around asking for the PR’s contact details to see if I can nab it FOC. Where has this sense of entitlement come from? Some may disagree with me here but sometimes, more often than not, it pays far more to spend. Whereby some of my most amazing relationships came from brands who had absolutely no idea who I was until I bought and reviewed their product. It makes me sad when I see bloggers tweeting brands with broken items in the hope that they send replacements, or simply engaging with a brand purely in the hope that they get some thing from it.

I never thought I’d be the one to say it, but what happened to doing things from the heart?


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Leather Jacket – Laura Scott @ LookAgain     Dress – Zara     Shoes – Chloe     Sunglasses – Sendoptics     bag – Balenciaga     Watch – Vector



  1. Adele 19th August 2015 / 7:39 am

    I agree with you Lydia. Getting freebies kind of comes with the territory, but the most important thing is honesty, integrety & staying true to what you would normally buy. My issue is when bloggers don’t advise that a product has been gifted, or the post has been sponsored.
    You look gorgeous btw!
    Hugs Adele xoxo

  2. nueyork 19th August 2015 / 10:13 am

    I completely agree! I have even seen a few advice posts popping up regarding PR sample etiquette, some even encouraging people to e-mail PR reps. I have not really dealt with that side of blogging yet, as much like your beginnings I like to rave about products for fun, but the idea horrifies me. I can’t really think of a reason you would need to e-mail them unless you have the ulterior motive of receiving products for review. x


  3. Tashi Skervin 19th August 2015 / 10:15 am

    I totally agree and I adore this post. I started blogging because I love to write and I wanted to tell the world through my eyes. not because I wanted free stuff- which seems to be the trend nowadays. It makes me cringe when I see bloggers shaming brands in the hope of getting freebies because it reflects badly on all of us! Your blog has remained so real which why it continues to grow, keep doing you girl! x

  4. Becca 19th August 2015 / 11:19 am

    Blogging is an amazing way of connecting with like minded people and writing creatively and passionately about what you enjoy I hate it’s also so materialistic 🙁 – Keep it real Lyd, love you for it. xxx


  5. Pia 19th August 2015 / 11:55 am

    I totally agree. As I started my blog a little voice in my head what free stuff I could get. But I instantly knew that’s not what blogging is about AT ALL. I’m lucky when brands do deem me worthy to promote their stuff that I support but inbetween, I just love talking to my readers about what I love.
    xx, Pia


  6. Phoebe 19th August 2015 / 4:05 pm

    Agree, agree, agree! Can’t help but feel that the majority of newbie bloggers are only starting their blogs because they’ve seen huge bloggers get the freebies – which in itself is wrong, if you’re putting time into shouting about that brand, it’s not free! It’s a symbiotic service between blogger and brand.
    Hate seeing blogging without passion behind it when so many people are putting so much effort into their little internet space!

    North of London

  7. Cori 19th August 2015 / 4:21 pm

    Couldn’t agree more — I recently had a conversation with a lovely lady on YouTube who informed me that she does not accept PR samples and only reviews products that she’s purchased. She said that she does not want to tamper with the authenticity of her channel at all, and that even by receiving a free product it takes away from her genuine content. I work full-time in PR, so I’m the one reaching out to bloggers and the like in hopes that they enjoy our products. I don’t see anything wrong with accepting a free sample if you’re offered, but I do think it’s easy to take things too far. I appreciate a blogger’s honest opinion over constant love for products/brands, because we can’t like everything. I also blog myself, and I see how easy it is to get wrapped up in the PR world.

    I don’t think it’s wrong for an individual to reach out to brand to request a new product if something is broken. Many work hard for their money, and if they buy something that doesn’t perform to its claims, I see nothing wrong with asking for money back or for a replacement.

  8. Nina 19th August 2015 / 6:34 pm

    Your hair, amazing!!
    Could you please do a video about your hair care and tell us please how you get those beautiful curls.


  9. Lucy W 19th August 2015 / 8:34 pm

    Like another commenter, as a new blogger looking into how I should be promoting my blog I’ve come across posts telling me to email lots of brands asking for products to review! I had no idea that people did such a thing, I assumed that free products came to bloggers on the back of brand engagement and loyalty. It’s not something I’ll be engaging in.

    On the subject of broken items, if a product failed to perform or broke relatively quickly I’d likely contact them and complain, not necessarily because I want a replacement but because I’m disappointed in the service and I want to voice it. I think that tweeting brands is probably similar so I don’t see the problem – unless the product is 5 years old and they should just genuinely be buying a replacement!
    P.s. Love your blog and instagram!
    Lucy x

    • lydia 20th August 2015 / 10:59 pm

      Hey Lucy,
      Sorry I should have been more specific, I’ve seen people whose items are no longer usable because of their own negligence, not because it broke. xxx 🙂

  10. Camilla Eriksson, Aspirationinstyle 19th August 2015 / 8:41 pm

    I was actually having the same thoughts for the last few days, it hard to get to the point to even get free PR samples and once you get there, how appreciative many forgets to be. In the end it’s all about staying true to your self and your taste and vision but also to be thankful because once you get to that stage you have influence to inspire others. It’s important to remember where you started. Great post Lydia! I really enjoy following your blog, you do inspire me to work harder to get to where I would like to be!


    • lydia 20th August 2015 / 10:59 pm

      Thanks Camilla, that really does mean so much! <3 x

  11. Sylvie 19th August 2015 / 11:17 pm

    So true! As someone who’s recently started an online business, I get so many bloggers (usually just starting out) contacting all the time asking me to send them products as if they’re doing me a favour. I think they see people like you and want that lifestyle and don’t realise how hard and how long you’ve spent working to get to where you are now. The entitlement and downright arrogance of some people is so rude!

    Such a good post!



    • lydia 20th August 2015 / 11:00 pm

      Hi Sylvie that really does make me sad to hear about that experience 🙁 xx

  12. Georgina 19th August 2015 / 11:42 pm

    I’m fairly new to the blogging scene, and I don’t expect to ever make a penny for any writing that I do, or anything free of charge. I started doing it because putting myself out there is extremely out of my comfort zone and making myself feel uncomfortable is weirdly making me feel better. It’s purely a hobby for me, and if people feel better or inspired, that’s all I need!

  13. Sabina Sher 20th August 2015 / 5:33 pm

    I totally agree with you here Lydia! All I have seen lately are arguments breaking out left, right and centre because of bloggers tweeting companies for freebies! I started my blog and still blog to this day because I love it! It’s the best hobby I have.. not to get freebies! Most of the stuff I feature on my blog are HUGE brands anyway. It’s a shame really..

    p.s. looking lovely as ever! x

  14. Annabel 21st August 2015 / 12:05 am

    Love love love this outfit, especially the leather jacket. Looks stunning against the white!

    Annabel ?
    Mascara & Maltesers

  15. Rhea 21st August 2015 / 2:42 am

    Most people forget why they started blogging in the first place. I have a no gifts policy, makes things so much simpler and more professional, especially with the stigma attached to blogger about being freebie-craving-selfie-takers. You look beautiful as always! 🙂
    PS: Congrats for the Bloglovin’ nomination. Voted for you. 🙂

  16. Taylor 21st August 2015 / 6:55 am

    I completely agree, I think a lot of people start blogging now JUST to get free things. I’ll email companies with my reviews only because I think they’d enjoy reading some extra positive feedback, if they ask to put me on their PR list then yeah, great, but I could never imagine asking myself or asking for freebies it feels rude to me. And then getting samples and complaining about them being broken? You didn’t pay for them, yes it sucks but suck it up.


  17. Rachael 22nd August 2015 / 10:17 pm

    I completely agree with this! There are certain bloggers who have a hihg opinion of themselves and snub lesser known bloggers & brands- we all have to start somewhere!!! you have always been true to yourself which is something that I really admire and aspire to! (love your snaps btw)

    Rachael x Rachael O

  18. LIsa 29th August 2015 / 2:53 pm

    I L.O.V.E this! ???? it’s so frustrating and so obvious when that’s literally ALL they talk about!

  19. Allyson 4th September 2015 / 7:38 pm

    i love how you dress, how you have all these different products, and how your life seems perfect. Blogging is i guess a girls dream. i would love to have one, but you need to be inspired through out the day, day after day. you need to know about all the latest trends and all i love reading about all of it. what i dont like, and makes me upset is how all the things you buy are so expensive. ive seen a blog of someone else where yes she buys all these clothes products but she’s able to tell us where we can find something cheeper that look pretty much the same .. i dont know if you understand. i work 2 jobs here in canada (i am well paid) and i cant buy half of what you have.its kind of ennoying to see all these nice thing put together and not being able to afford it.,.. but i do appreciate your blog 🙂 have a good day

    • lydia 5th September 2015 / 5:48 pm

      Hi Allyson,
      I’m not sure you have read my blog very long because I barely buy anything expensive. The only difference is when I do buy something expensive I like to go on about it because I have wanted it for a long time. You only have to scroll back to my last outfit post where I am wearing a dress that cost £15.

      Lydia x

  20. Karis 15th September 2015 / 3:13 pm

    I agree with you, I have been blogging for nearly 3 years and started it because I wanted to write about beauty when I left my Beauty Therapy role, its all about having the passion for it. Love your look here, can’t beat black and white. KBxx


  21. Mick shea 24th November 2015 / 2:10 pm

    I’m in love with the heels!

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